As an executive leadership coach, I routinely challenge the notion that effective leadership means being liked. In guiding numerous organizations, I’ve discovered that the most successful leaders know their true impact extends well beyond mere popularity. Here’s why leaders disregard the need to be liked:
Approval Can Cloud Judgment: Leaders fixated on likability may avoid necessary risks. The best leaders make tough choices, focusing on what’s best for the organization, not on personal popularity.
Decisiveness Matters: The essence of leadership is making difficult decisions. Effective leaders do this without hesitation, knowing it’s for the organization’s greater good.
Inspire Through Authentic Leadership The most admired leaders are those who stay true to their values, even when facing criticism. They never sacrifice their principles for the sake of popularity.
Innovation Comes with Courage: Leaders who think differently make waves. Their disregard for tradition makes them invaluable for progress and innovation.
Respect is the Real Prize True leaders seek respect, not likes. Respect comes from actions and decisions that demonstrate integrity and commitment.
Vision Over Popularity: Great leaders keep their eyes on the prize—the organization’s success. They’re willing to forego personal popularity to achieve their goals.
Leadership is not about being everyone’s friend. It’s about guiding the team toward shared goals, making the hard choices, and staying true to the vision, regardless of personal popularity.
Lead From Within: Great leaders build their legacy on impact, not approval, by maintaining focus on the mission and leading with conviction and purpose.
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The Leadership Gap
What Gets Between You and Your Greatness
After decades of coaching powerful executives around the world, Lolly Daskal has observed that leaders rise to their positions relying on a specific set of values and traits. But in time, every executive reaches a point when their performance suffers and failure persists. Very few understand why or how to prevent it.
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Of Lolly’s many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others. Her newest book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness has become a national bestseller.